Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

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"Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage."

With more than 35 years of experience counseling couples, Gary has found that most marriages suffer due to a lack of preparation and a failure to learn to work together as intimate teammates.

So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive, and mutually beneficial marriage they envision, such as:

What the adequate foundation for a successful marriage truly is What to expect about the roles and influence of extended family How to solve disagreements without arguing How to talk through issues like money, sex, chores, and more Why couples must learn how to apologize and forgive

Ideal for newly married couples and those considering marriage, the material lends itself to heart-felt, revealing, and critical conversations for relational success.

Read this bookand you'll be prepared for--not surprised by--the challenges of marriage.


Bonus features include:

Book suggestions and an interactive websites to enhance the couples' experience "Talking it Over" questions and suggestions to jumpstart conversations over each chapter Appendix on healthy dating relationships and an accompanying learning exercise
Publisher: Chicago : Northfield Pub., c2010.
ISBN: 9780802481832
Branch Call Number: 248.844 Chapman 12/2010
Characteristics: 166 p. ;,21 cm.


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katarina_biblio Oct 11, 2017

Even though the intended audience for this book is those who are dating or engaged, as a married person I still felt it delivered some important insights. Presented in an easy to follow format (complete with exercises), Chapman really makes you think about things that seem obvious but you may have overlooked. He drives home the importance of these issues, but also makes it easy for you to see a resolution to them. Great read!

Mar 21, 2016

Pretty simple stuff, but it's probably true that most people don't actually discuss these issues before getting married. I was looking for more in-depth analysis of which values, goals, personality compatibilities, etc. are most crucial to a life-long marriage.

Jun 23, 2013

Much of it is practical, common-sense ideas for making a marriage work and provides things to think about before becoming engaged or married. It's a quick, easy read that includes some exercises at the end of each chapter. A number of times in the book, Chapman refers to two of his other popular books, "The Five Languages of Apology" and "The Five Love Languages"; both I think more useful in the long run than this one.

HanakoGal Nov 18, 2012

This book is for those who are casually dating, exclusively dating, and those who are engaged to be married. Think of this as an overview of important issues that might cause some contention in a relationship. It is full of interesting and practical things to think about, talk about and do. You can read it on your own or as a couple. I found it enjoyable to read and easy to understand. Each chapter has topics and questions to discuss listed at the end. Some of the things mentioned are covered more fully in his other book The Five Love Languages. This is a book I’ve bought to be able to study more.


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